LDR: What it's ACTUALLY like
LDR-otherwise known as long-distance relationship (to be honest I don't even really know if LDR is a thing but it is now if it isn't already). My boyfriend of just over 2 and 1/2 years moved to the glorious town of Loveland, Colorado. (If you didn't already know this, you should probably get caught up.) BUT funny thing, I am still in Omaha, Nebraska. We've been doing this long-distance thing for almost five months now and we are by no means experts. Every relationship is different which creates different outcomes. However, I'm here to tell you what it's actually like waiting for the stars align again so that you and your loved one can be together in person once again.
This should obvious. It's hard to go from seeing each other every day to seeing each other maybe once a month. Most times, after we part ways, we don't even know when the next time is that we'll see each other. There isn't a set in stone time that we can plan on, it's go with the flow all. the. time.
I know, I know, this sounds contraditing but ya know how I just mentioned that we rarely know the next time we'll see each other? That day when we figure out who's going where, magically turns into the best day ever. Hope is alive and for a long time, that's all we can think about.
Again, another weird one. However, this is important. It isn't a question in either of our minds that we want to be together. Knowing this little fact about each other, we are learning to grow apart yet together at the same time. I AM AWARE THIS PROBABLY MAKES NO SENSE TO THE COUPLES THAT ARE FORTUNATE TO SEE EACH OTHER EVERY DAY. But really, we are young, we are growing, we are learning. It's important that both of us are doing what we want to do every day. He meets new friends at his Dungeons and Dragons game nights and my roomie and I have wine nights.
When you're apart from someone for long periods of time, sometimes, there's this...distance... that likes to pop up. We are no exception that rule. Sometimes it's because one of us is tired, other times one of us is out with friends but that "distance" never stays permenantly. It's a struggle, but we've definitely learned to be better communicators to each other and just in general.
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, I've personally come to learn the truth to the statement. I am looking forward to the day (sometime soon) when I won't have to see my favorite person once a month, and instead I'll get to see him everyday.
I'll be the first to admit that an LDR isn't fun. It's hard, time-consuming (especially when you're in different time zones), and overall not a fun set-up. I'm not lying when I say that every time Mark and I have to leave each other, I bawl my eyes out for like an hour. However, as long as you and your partner can trust each other, the overall plan will fall into place for both of you. Being patient isn't easy, but I've been told it's worth it. I will do my best to keep you updated and tell you if it's ACTUALLY worth it in the end! Hint: I think I already know the answer-yes.