Meet Yourself Where You Are
Yes, I recognize that I am a day late to my current blog posting schedule but, to be honest, this delay led me to this week's blog topic: Meet Yourself Where You Are.
This year I set out with the mission to work on growing my blog and I knew one of the best, easiest, most controllable ways to do that is to remain consistent. I set out with the notion to post a new blog every Monday and have old blogs up on Facebook Thursday and Saturday while scheduling Pinterest pins for every day of the week. Not to brag, but I was doing a pretty good job of it, until now.
I started forgetting to schedule old posts and I would get upset with myself. With my new job, I haven't had as much time to write, schedule, or plan as I used to and my blog posts were getting written later and later in the week until it was the day of. NOW, I am a full day late to posting my new blog and I've been thinking about this lack of planning the last two days. I've been upset with myself because I know I am failing my goals, my mindset, and my readers.
Truthfully, I know what the problem is. I recognized it back in June when I first started to slip. I wasn't fully in it. With some big (and exciting) challenges and events popping up with work, it has been hard to get back into being passionate about my own website, goals, and dreams. I knew I wasn't meeting myself even half-way. I would push and pull on my own emotions throughout the week, trying to do it all at once. I felt myself slipping farther away from my own passion-project the more I tried to remain to this schedule. A schedule that I still intend on keeping (just needed to shift my mindset first!).
We talk (okay, I talk) a lot about self-care. How to treat yourself, how to learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable, and so much more but often times we overlook the most important actionable steps to truly take care of ourselves. We forget to plan. We forget what's important to us. We forget how good our passions make us feel. We forget how much we NEED our friend-time. We forget to meet ourselves where we are.
It's natural to fall into a routine, as humans we love creating habits so that we can feel safe and don't have to feel tired about thinking of what step we need to take next. BUT. These routines can cause us to lose track of our goals, our mission. We get caught up in the day-to-day and forget to realize this is our life.
This is why it's important to meet ourselves where we are.
One thing to keep in mind: there are two sides to this idea. One side is to remember to look up. Get out of your daily routine, try something new, and get a little uncomfortable for a bit. It's important for us to constantly and consistently reevaluate where we are in life, how we're feeling, and what changes need to be made. The other side is to remember to slow down. We can't be go, go, go every day all of the time. This is hard for over-achievers like me who are so stuck on crushing their goals that sometimes I don't realize how I'm actually hurting myself instead of helping.
Over the past couple of months, I was forgetting to meet myself where I was. I needed to meet myself more than halfway because I felt my mental healthy beginning to slip, I noticed I wasn't putting what I deem important into my schedule for weeks on end. Fun fact, I love writing! Not just blogging but journaling and I don't remember the last time I did that. I love painting! I think the last time I painted was in May. I love spending time with my friends! I finally added them back into my regularly scheduled routine so that I can feel that accomplishment and satisfaction again. I was so tired, so worn-out, and just plain confused that I didn't know what I actually needed. I just knew what I should do but that wasn't bringing me joy.
As we continue on with some crazy, strange, unpredictable times it's important for ALL of us to do regular check-ins. These can be daily, weekly, monthly, or even hourly. You decide! Meet yourself where you are, keeping in mind that some days you might have to go a little farther than others. We all need breaks, we all need spontaneous moments, we all need excitement, and rest in our lives.
You've got this!
How often do you check-in on yourself? Do you find yourself feeling like you need more rest or more spontaneity? When was the last time you met yourself where you needed to be and what did that look like? I would love to hear how you are doing and any tips you may have for myself or others just like you! Please leave a comment below or shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. I would love to hear from you!