Something To Keep In Mind
I'll be the first to admit that life isn't always easy. Actually, most days can be extremely difficult especially during this time. As 2020 continues on and we're exploring a hard year as a society altogether, there's something to keep in mind.
We're all here just trying to do our best.
This concept seems to get lost at times. We get so judgemental or caught up in our own emotions and reactions to certain events that we become so quick to "cancel" someone instead of taking a step back and looking at the situation in its entirety. However, this one simple thought can keep relationships healthy, work hours on track, and so much more.
I used to work at an agency where I took a week-long training course to learn how to properly work with clients, co-workers, and department leads effectively. Within the first day, we immediately were told the iconic phrase: "Always assume positive intent." The idea was to keep this simple phrase in mind while we're dealing with an upset client or a decision within the company that we may not have agreed with. Realistically, this phrase was the start of a course to help you be the best co-worker and employee you can be. Clients were typcially small business owners who worried about their business every second of everyday. They weren't usually mad at you, specifically, they were mad at a situation they were forced into. However, funny enough, that when you work at a place for 8+ hours a day, it's hard to just brush off how your brain actually thinks. So that phrase that we were intended to use throughout our workday, became more than just a workplace ideology - it became a way that I live.
Now one simple phrase doesn't just change your life. It's still incredibly difficult some days to remind myself of the fact that we are all humans, and we are all literally just trying our best in the world. We live in a society with quick judgments and slow understanding. During this time while we're all online a little more, we're experiencing our beliefs being challenged no matter where your opinions fall within politics, life decisions, or even what your favorite sports team is. People are crude behind a screen and you can't see them. They're pushing us to our limits without even physically touching us - we can be states apart and still feel crumbling wrath.
Relationships, friendships, and even families are feeling the strain of the outside negativity. It's no secret that I've lost friendships throughout my life, we all do. Some are huge blowups, some are passive-aggressive, petty friendships that dwindle over the years, and others are just the typical fade-outs as we all start to grow up and become our own person. None of these are bad or indicate that you or your friend are bad people.
Life happens. We get overwhelmed. We get hurt and then we get over it, and that's life. I don't know about you, but if any broken relationships came my way, I would be willing to fix them ASAP, as I'm sure most of you would too. Heck, I've had friendships/relationships fall apart and come back together even more beautiful than before. Don't let this time in our lives define yourself or your relationships because we're all stressed and scared in our own ways. Although, we do all need recognize our toxic behaviors, giving ourselves grace is just as important.
As we all navigate this pandemic, civil rights movement, killer bees, black holes eating energy forces we've never heard of, World War III, and whatever else 2020 throws at us, I challenge you to keep the phrase, "Always assume positive intent" in the back of your mind. Truthfully, most people in the world are NOT out to get you or to ruin your day. Their main focus is to get through their OWN day and you're probably not even on their mind. We all want to do our best. We are all trying our best every single day. So let's all show each other some love.
How has 2020 been going for you? Have you noticed any relationships strained over the past couple of months? How are you keeping busy? How are you deciding to show the love to others around you? I would love to hear! Leave a comment below or shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. I truly love hearing from you and I'm always here to listen if you need it. I hope you have a great week!