Top 10 Wedding Tips from Someone Who is Nearing the End of Wedding Planning
Updated: Feb 27
With only 18 days left until the big day, wedding planning is starting to come to an end around the Rew-Gibbs household. The more I think about it, the more bittersweet it becomes. I LOVE planning events and crafting and decorating so these last couple of months have been a lot of fun.
With the most popular engagement season nearly upon us, wedding planning will be in full swing for a lot of people before we know it! Here are the top 10 wedding tips I can give ANY bride to be.
1.) If it's possible, plan your wedding at least a year out from your engagement day
The 1+ year engagement has really helped us to plan the wedding without being too stressed. We had enough time to do research, hire our preferred vendors, and save money along the way. It can be hard if there's too much between your engagement and your wedding, but give yourself enough time to relax and enjoy this time in your life!
2.) Plan an off-season wedding if you're looking to take your dollar farther
I've said it before and I'll say it again. If you're looking to save LOTS of $$$ then plan an off-season wedding. Ours is over half the cost of what it would be if we were to have our wedding between April - October. Keep in mind the more money you save on your food/drinks, decorations, etc. the more you can spend either on your bridal party or your honeymoon!
3.) To give yourself the best day possible, really think about who you want in your bridal party
From personal experience and hearing stories from others, properly picking your bridal party is essential. Sometimes surprises that you never saw coming DO happen, but if you're looking for a drama-free day around, keep your bridal party on the smaller side. You don't HAVE to include those you don't want to (even if they are family or soon-to-be family). The people who stand beside you, are people you should be proud of and couldn't picture the day without any of them.
4.) Know your limits!
A person can only do so much! We all know that you want your day to be special, but learning to delegate will help you keep your sanity. You don't have to have a lot of people involved (that can get chaotic) but try to include parents, grandparents, and even close friends to complete tasks you either don't want to do or don't have time to do. If you feel yourself stressing out, let someone know. You'd be surprised at how eager others will be to come to your aide.
5.) Pick your battles...
As Mark always says, "Weddings make people crazy." People get stressed, scared, anxious, overly excited, and sometimes even jealous. I've learned that more often than not, people really, truly just want to help BUT that help can seem overbearing or overwhelming, especially if it's not something you had in mind. One of my go-to lines (for life in general too) is, "Okay, thank you! I'll double-check that and keep you updated." Let people feel heard, but give yourself time to make the final decision.
6.) If you have a clear vision of what you want your wedding day to look like, start scouring for decorations and other items immediately
This also helps if you have that 1+ year engagement. When you have extra time, you can search for bigger and better deals. If you're having a seasoned wedding (fall, winter, spring) you can stock up on decorations after the season's over at usually around 75-90% off. Also, just an FYI, picking up wedding items is best to do around September/October! The busy summer season is over and stores are usually getting ready to stock up with fall and Christmas decor.
7.) Save, save, save
And pay off your vendors as quickly as possible. The best thing Mark and I did was immediately start saving for our wedding/honeymoon. If you're looking for easy ways to save, check out this post! But seriously, open a savings account, transfer money occasionally, and don't touch it until you need it. On another note, using a credit card to rack up points/cashback is another great way to secretly save money.
8.) Be realistic, you can (usually) only have your dream wedding or dream honeymoon - not both
Unless you both have insanely great jobs or your parents are truly following all traditions and are paying for your wedding (take full advantage!) it can be hard to swing your dream wedding AND your dream honeymoon. My advice? Pick the one that means the most to you. To be completely honest, our wedding is NOTHING like my dream wedding (I wanted to elope on a mountain and throw a great party after. Cheap, easy, fun, cute.) Instead, we opted to have a wedding our families will love, which in turn, makes us love it! However, we're looking forward to our honeymoon. I mean how DREAMY will Munich, Germany be during Christmas time?!
9.) Give yourself (and your fiance) grace
It's a stressful time. You BOTH are choosing to make a huge decision. Family members seem to have their hands in everything and time is only ticking away. With such a "long list" left to do emotions can rise! And that's totally okay!!! Now is the time to work on those communication skills marriage prep classes always talk about. You're not perfect, and neither is your fiance but you're here. You're in love. And you're going to have a beautiful day.
10.) Have FUN!
For many people, this day only comes once in a lifetime. So ENJOY IT! Indulge a little. Pick out a luxurious robe and slippers. Get your favorite bottles of wine and load up on friends nights to celebrate. It's only going to be stressful if you make it that way! The day is about you and the love of your life coming together in unity forever, not all of the extra fluff society talks about. Soooo have FUN with your best friend!
Have you recently gotten married and saw that I missed something? I want to hear! What were some of YOUR top wedding tips to enjoy the wedding planning process and the big day itself? Leave a comment below or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I love hearing from you guys!